The Bible is clear, your marriage and my marriage is a mirror of the Gospel. This idea is clearly explained in Ephesians chapter five; Husbands are to be like Christ in the way He loves the church, and wives are to be like the church in the way they respect and honor Christ. In other words, human marriage is the earthly image of God’s divine plan for humanity. So why then is the idea of incompatibility in marriage such a common notion? In this episode, Dale and Veronica will address the idea of incompatibility in marriage and replace this wrong way of thinking with truth from the Bible.
Key Takeaways From This Episode:
- Every married couple is, in some way, a glimpse of His design for salvation. And for those who are married, He’s given us a way to truly experience the Gospel’s sacrificial love, order, and most of all unity.
- It is important to recognize that God in the Old Testament and Jesus in the New Testament both affirm that the goal of marriage is to become one flesh.
- There is a myth that we are supposed to be compatible with our spouse, and while there are many earthly areas where we can find common ground with our spouse (we like the same music or we both love the outdoors), the one area that every husband and wife innately have in common is that they’re both selfish and sinful. Romans 3:23 says, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,” because of this, we are all incompatible because our flesh tells us to only care about ourselves.
- Our fallen nature of being self-focused and sin-focused prevents us from having complete unity in a marriage. What this means is that there is no such thing as an intrinsically compatible couple.
- The thought that we are to be compatible is a flawed desire because it’s an impossible outcome.
- Now, there is one thing that we can have in common that will allow us, even in our selfish and fallen state, to find unity in the midst of any marital situation, circumstance, or trial. That is Christ.
- When a husband and wife have Christ in common, they can share no other similarities and still have a thriving, unified marriage.
- We must stop looking to earthly commonalities to solve our need for common ground and unity and start looking to Christ and the Bible.
- Looking at the contrast of the definition of compatibility with the definition of complementary, we see that the word complementary means, “An element that completes or brings another to perfection.” In Genesis chapter 1-2, God creates complementary pairs (Light and Dark, Heavens and Earth, Land and Sea, and then Man and Woman). This is a more accurate goal for marriage; We are called to complement one another according to God’s structure for marriage.
- So instead of focusing on the differences you and your spouse have, start looking at how your imperfect spouse teaches you the sacrificial love of Christ.
- Ultimately, a marriage is never incompatible, it’s often just filled with people who refuse to grow and unify under the Banner of Christ.
- Genesis Chapters 2-3
- Ephesians 5:22-33
- Romans 3:23 says, “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”
- Romans 8:23 “but we also who have the firstfruits of the Spirit (Christians), even we ourselves groan within ourselves, eagerly waiting for the adoption, the redemption of our body.”
After watching or listening to this episode, what is your opinion? Do you have any questions or comments? Maybe you have something to add to the discussion? If so, let us know in the comments below.